I realised that social media has been playing a major role in filling the gaping void of connection in my life.

I felt connected. I saw the holiday pictures of friends, commented on stories, liked the posts of fellow practitioners I knew. I was up to date… so I wasn’t reaching out as much in other ways, picking up the phone for a chat, checking in, or making dates to actually meet. And forget putting myself out there to make new local friends…

But the thing is, this sense of connection I was getting through social media was largely false. Yes, it gave me a short-term feeling of connection, but without the depth of a proper catch-up.

For as long as I can remember, holidays have been my escape. 

A pause button.
A place that felt better than my real life.
Somewhere I could breathe, feel lighter, more myself.

When I think about it, I realise this is most definitely a hangover from my teaching days… and come to think of it my own education prior to that!  My life was divided into periods of several weeks spent working before the next holiday arrived, and I constantly found myself counting down, hoping for time to pass quickly so I could finally feel 'free'.

But the thing is, and without realising it, that pattern fully embedded itself and quietly whispered:
“The grass is greener somewhere else.

That has, in turn became a mantra that has ruled every area of my life.

This last holiday showed me something different. 

I thought it would be fun, maybe even meditative. What I didn’t expect was how deeply this experience would mirror the kind of healing work I guide my clients through every day.

Because working with clay?
It demanded everything—my body, my mind, my presence, my patience.
And so does healing.

Here are the lessons that clay gently (and at times not-so-gently) reminded me of—and how they connect to the way we heal, grow, and come back home to ourselves.

Why Inner Child Healing Unlocks Expansion

So often, the things that block our growth — in relationships, career, self-worth, or self-expression — aren’t due to a lack of strategy or effort. They’re rooted in unconscious survival patterns created by a younger version of us.

Here’s how healing your inner child supports expansion:

• You stop reacting from old wounds and start responding with clarity.

• You release the emotional charge behind limiting beliefs and trauma responses.

• You reclaim your voice and express your needs without shame.

• You feel safer being seen, loved, and successful — because the part of you that once feared rejection now feels supported.

Inner child work creates emotional spaciousness. And from that space, growth becomes natural — not forced.

This wasn’t just a coincidence; there’s a reason that emotional release often leads to a desire for physical tidiness. Our inner world and outer world are deeply connected, often as we put down the emotional baggage that we have been holding it can create a ripple effect shifting the lens through which we view our lives and our spaces. As we release long-held emotion, positive physical changes occur within the body. As the nervous system becomes more regulated, we are able to think and make decisions, things we have been procrastinating over or putting off can suddenly find solutions with ease.

This is a kind of grief no one talks about

Grief doesn’t only follow death. Sometimes, grief shows up when the life you thought you’d live slips out of reach.

Maybe you pictured a family that didn’t come, a career that never took off,
a love that never found you, a family life that included a partner to share the load with, a version of yourself you expected to become — and didn’t.

It’s a quiet grief. Often invisible, sometimes even hard to identify by ourselves.  And because it isn’t widely acknowledged, many people push it down or minimize it. They say things like:

“Other people have it worse.”
“I should be grateful for what I have.”
“I should be over it.”

Home is the quiet recognition of the soul beneath the noise of who we’ve been taught to be. My journey of coming home to myself began the moment I understood it wasn’t about trying to fix myself ~ and started listening instead.

What can you expect in a Root Cause 1:1 session?

We can spend decades retelling a story, yet not getting any further to the Root Cause of what our body is trying to communicate with us.  It is not until we really begin listening and decoding the subtle signals that our body is sending, that we can shed light on what has been buried.